Hi,
So far, we understand that we have to create our own reality.
But, you also need to understand group dynamics.’
No, this won’t be some boring college class that shows flow charts and graphs and uses quantum analysis that will have you snoozing away.
Here’s how group dynamics works:
A dog hears a noise that it can’t place.
It begins barking.
Other dogs hear the barking, and they immediately begin barking, also.
It didn’t matter that the noise was not a threat.
The first dog perceived it to be a threat, and so sent out a warning signal to all others around it.
The other dogs also know that it is their job to pass on the warning signal–
EVEN THOUGH THEY DON’T KNOW WHAT TRIGGERED IT!
The dogs fell into peer pressure to pass on what they had been ingrained to do. They barked, because somebody else barked.
Let me give you another example:
They took five monkeys and put them in a cage that had stairs in it, with bananas at the top of the stairs.
Whenever a monkey went to go get the bananas, they were shot down with a hose.
Then, they turned off the hose system, and took out one of the monkeys, and put in a new monkey.
When the new monkey went for the bananas, the other four held the new monkey back.
They then continued to replace the monkeys one at a time, taking out one of the original monkeys, and replacing it with a new monkey.
Each time the new monkey went for the bananas, the other monkeys held the new monkey back.
Remember, the hose has been turned off. There is no more danger in going after the bananas–
But the monkeys keep holding the new monkeys back.
Even when all of the original monkeys had been replaced, all the new monkeys held any other monkey added to the mix from going after the bananas.
Well, what does this have to do with beating addiction?
It’s simple:
When you have a group that has been taught a wrong way to beat addiction, the group members will pass on that wrong method, even when things have changed.
Some people have had success with the Anonymous method, and to them I say, “Good for you!”
But, then there are those that don’t succeed and fall right back into their addiction, and they don’t know why.
It’s because they are with the wrong group who have been taught the wrong way.
More later!
Make it a great day!
Brother Paul