Hi everybody,
So far, we’ve looked at creating reality, understanding why you believe things the way you do, and group dynamics.
But, that still seems pretty disjointed, doesn’t it.
Well, here’s what puts it all together.
You have to have someone who is in control. It could be a mentor, a counselor, a facilitator, or a coach.
Let me show you why.
Remember the story by William Golding called the Lord Of The Flies.
It’s about a group of well-raised English students who crash landed on an island. No adults survived.
They quickly decided they must form a society to succeed.
They divided into groups where those who hunted quickly took the dominance, as they brought the food that sustained the group.
But, the hunters were selfish and doled out punishment mercilessly to any who opposed them.
Soon, a death occurred needlessly.
Chaos broke loose, and they quickly became savages acting out of control.
And, then–
they were found.
And, when the Naval officer stood over them, order appeared to be restored.
Well, great–what’s that got to do with beating addiction.
When you have a group that has no natural or ordained leader, chaos occurs.
You need someone to set the tone, the goals, and the planned outcomes to overcome the chaos.
You need, in short, what I call a Point Of Help.
This is why I feel that a lot of 12 Step Programs do NOT succeed.
The group comes together–they talk about their failures, and their successes (talking about failures can merely reinforce them, instead of moving on), and they become friends with fellow addictees, all who believe they have no hope of overcoming their addiction, while admitting they are powerless. (I believe that you can rely on God’s Holy Spirit to help, but YOU have to make the choice, which means you need to use YOUR POWER to choose.)
When you put these keys together, you can start the process of ridding yourself of an addiction:
#1: Choose to believe that if you’ve chosen the reality you now exist in, that you can change that reality.
#2: Choose to believe that you can change the beliefs that have been ingrained within you.
#3: Understand that you do not need to follow the group dynamics that have been set up for you previously.
#4: Choose to accept a facilitator of some kind to help you overcome those addictions.
I truly believe that everything that has made you a failure to this point is because of some addiction to something that has prevented you from succeeding. Be it booze, smoking, gambling, drugs, sex, pornography, negativity, fear of success, or whatever.
And, I know that when you apply certain principles that involve not tips or tricks, but actual lifestyle changes, YOU Can Overcome All Of Those, And Begin Succeeding.
We’ll look at the next steps which include understanding that beating addiction involves lifestyle changes and changing your circle of friends in the next couple of steps.
Make it a great day!
Brother Paul
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